In support of your efforts achieved with another mediator, I am available for Attorney for Review & Consultation services.
Most mediators, including myself, will recommend that you do the following:
- Hire an Independent Consulting Attorney During Mediation: Since mediators are neutral third parties, they can’t give legal advice (even if they are licensed family law attorneys). A consulting attorney, with whom you will meet on your own, without your spouse, will:
- Be duty-bound to act/speak in your best interests only.
- Allow you the freedom to ask questions you may have hesitated to ask during mediation.
- Answer any questions about the state law discussed during mediation, and how it does or doesn’t apply to your situation.
- Clarify how your mediated proposals regarding family issues may or may not differ from what a court may decide.
You can then return to your next mediation session satisfied with your results, or you may question the proposals and seek additional options.
- Hire an Independent Review Attorney: Once you and your spouse are satisfied that the written divorce proposal is complete, both spouses should hire an independent review attorney. With attorney review you will:
- Hire your own attorney. You will have your mediation document read by someone devoted to your interests only.
- Ensure you understand each term to which you’ve agreed, and that the document is worded so that the result you expect occurs.
- Have confidence that your document, since you’ve both had it reviewed by separate lawyers, will endure unless and until it requires modification.